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Afrocity Says…Lets Hang up the Chick Habit and Riot Grrls!!!! April 20, 2009

(Cross posted at THE CONFLUENCE)
I try not to show it much but being recognized as a PUMA is very important to me.

I imagine myself standing in a room filled with PUMA women of all ages, colors and backgrounds. We are a circle of sisters who will not be treated like shit. A moral and intellectual force and we have all just been through hell.

I step forward and say.

My name is Afrocity and I am a Republican (there I said it) and I want to be a PUMA.

It is March 2009 and I was thinking this scene out for sometime as I awaited surgery at a local women’s hospital. I had uterine polyps. I was bleeding and in pain. Nevertheless, I felt special because it was a women’s specialty hospital- only us girls and everything was trimmed in breast cancer awareness -pink. I saw an older woman being wheeled into the OR, her daughter behind her with an OBAMA tote bag. Hmmm I did not vote for the man but matter what, we are still women. No one can change that. She pees sitting down and so do I.

I put my Ipod on. I have a PUMA playlist you know. It is all Riot Grrl music. The third wave feminist girl bands. Bratmobile, April March, Jack Off Jill… The drugs they gave to me were kicking in. The nurse looked at me and smiled. I wondered if she would still smile at me if she knew I was conservative. The last song I remembered before they wheeled me into surgery was April March’s “Chick Habit”.

hang up the chick habit
hang it up, daddy,
a girl’s not a tonic or a pill
hang up the chick habit
hang it up, daddy,
you’re just jonesing for a spill

oh, how your bubble’s gonna burst
when you meet another nurse
she’ll be driving in a hearse

you’re gonna see the reason why
when they’re spitting in your eye
they’ll be spitting in your eye

I thought yes we need to hang up the chick habits, all get along and PUMA will be spitting your eye.

You may have noticed that I have been absent from The Confluence.

After a long and stressful election year I needed some time to myself.

I was tired of the Rasmussen polls and Obamabots. I felt overloaded by the imagery of sexism, race baiting and misogyny. I lost my race, my color, my gender. The thread I hung by was PUMA and that thread was breaking I felt, because I was a conservative.

During the election I really had no where to turn. I frequented Jake Tapper’s Political Punch Blog at There I experience a daily forced fed diet of Kool Aid and Hillary Hate Bars, full of energy with hope and change, packed with the extra fiber of racial pandering and humiliation. Hillary lost the primary. I felt personally defeated.

What was I going to do? Vote for McCain? It was almost impossible to comprehend. I had been a Democrat my entire life. I was an African American woman- it was craziness. I wanted to vote for John McCain. I had always admired his service to his country, his time as a POW, his maverick stance. It did not help that the left had fallen from grace in my eyes. For some time they had metamorphosed from dutiful donkeys to hypocritical assholes. “Hmmm which voting block will we pimp this time?” I’d had enough. Hillary was my last hope in the DNC and now she was gone. I wanted to go Republican but all the force of my racial sensibility told me not to. The only thing liberal about me was my pro-choice position. How could I? I would sit out the election.

One day, I went to the blog to pass the time away. Expecting the same ol’ Obamabutt garbage. Quick! Here come the sheeple. Get the Kool Aid! Fetch and Carry.

Today I was wrong.

Someone posted.


Catchy phrase I thought. Just like the Howie Mandel game show. A week went by and I saw it again and again.

One lone poster: PUMA PUMA PUMA PUMA

I Googled it and saw sneakers…athletic gear…then a gem…It was Riverdaughter. THE CONFLUENCE.

At first I lurked and laughed. It was the epitome of estrogen and political snark.

Dare I post? I put a toe into the pool, then a leg, a body.

Afrocity was in, AngieNC grabbed my hand SOD was there, Madamab. Hi there Mr. Clown and Fuzzy, Simonfish. The water was refreshing and clear of Kool Aid.

Through PUMA, I gained unlikely acquaintances. Women I would never meet in real life. Along the way the wounds were terrible. Gotcha interviews, pigs with lipstick, Sarah Palin open debate threads, our PUMA eyes wide and keyboards tapping to her defense. We were like dolls in a museum, stripping off our gingham and corsets. We would no longer allow ourselves to be political ornamentation.


We were honing a message. Whispers from “Camp Chosen One” turned into threats and slurs. We were demonized as Menopausal Mollies who hated Obama. We were called the “R word”. Yes even me… We marched together on Election Day and cast our ballots. Many votes were in protest, others in earnest, a few mentally at home. The un-vote. Still, no matter how we voted, no matter how difficult it was that the vote was not for SHE, there was an undeniable bond of unity and we all found ourselves NOT VOTING FOR OBAMA.

I am a Republican but to me and the many other conservative and independent voting women that I know- we admire the PUMA cause as we lurk here. We watch with much interest as the PUMA question is answered. What is your mission. Will it include us?

Women of all political parties need to look for ways to simultaneously embrace women’s rights. Defiant political posture is a means to an end in the face of rising discrimination on the basis of our sex.

What happened during the election happened to both Hillary Clinton and Sarah Palin.

We should come together and avail ourselves of liberal and conservative tools- every divisive tool of patriarchic propaganda. Let’s widen our base and broaden our message.

Ceilings must shatter at the White House. As women, we should challenge the concept of the executive branch as ONLY masculine and the congressional branch as tolerably feminine.

We need collaboration to overcome the current divide. This past election told us much as ourselves not only as conservatives or democrats, blacks, whites, gays or straight but as women. Together we can advance in parallel directions. We can combat the horizontal fraternization between the patriarchy and the media. We can unburden ourselves of critical surveillance and revisionist History i.e. SHE IS STUPID, ONLY A ROOM WHERE HE COMES OUT, SHE IS PERIODICALLY DOWN.

Otherwise our work is in vain. Hidden in plain sight and the gendered assaults will continue.

Please lets hang up the chick habits. Let’s RIOT GRRLS

Then my operation is over and I have opened my eyes.

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16 Responses to “Afrocity Says…Lets Hang up the Chick Habit and Riot Grrls!!!!”

  1. Woman Voter Says:

    Yup, I hear ya, we have been too nice for too long. It’s time they worked for our votes and had to hear what is important to us. We have been taken for granted, but no more!

    Good to hear you opened your eyes and got through it. God Speed to ya. {{{hug}}}

  2. Nanook Says:

    Right on afrocity! Rush thinks he’s seen feminazis? Let’s let the right wing grrrrrls get angry for a while! Great post. I’m recommending your blog all around my friends.

  3. donnadarko Says:

    We watch with much interest as the PUMA question is answered. What is your mission. Will it include us?

    The New Agenda is half Republican. I learned they are exactly like Democratic women.

    • afrocity Says:

      Donna, I have to work on my blog’s block quote function, It is white writing in light pink box. Gotta fix that.

  4. donnadarko Says:

    This was a response to your quote:

    We watch with much interest as the PUMA question is answered. What is your mission. Will it include us?

  5. Katie Says:

    Hi nice blog 🙂 I can see a lot of effort has been put in.

  6. simofish Says:

    Good stuff !!! You’re blog rocks sister friend !!

  7. manbearpig68 Says:

    I’m all for woman power as long as they’re conservatives!! You’re a Great American Afrocity

    • Janis Says:

      I’m all for women power, PERIOD. That’s the real shakeup in this world — when women realize that we’re all one party based on our chromosomes and start voting that way.

  8. RalphB Says:

    Just to offer a good word to the politically homeless.

    Salt of the Earth: Rolling Stones & Guns ‘n Roses

    Raise your glass to the hard working people
    Let’s drink to the uncounted heads
    Let’s think of the wavering millions
    Who need leaders but get gamblers instead.

    Spare a thought for the stay-at-home voter
    His empty eyes gaze at strange beauty shows
    And a parade of the gray suited grafters
    A choice of cancer or polio.

  9. afrocity Says:

    Ralph home is where you make it. Mine is here my friend.
    I am just happy that I don’t have to pretend any more. No more listening to Rush with headphones. 😉

  10. RalphB Says:

    afrocity, You should never have to pretend anywhere to anyone. If a person doesn’t accept you for who you are, leave them in your dust. You’re super. Your post at TC was magnificent!

  11. boldandbald Says:

    Very well written post afrocity.

    I have to admit that as a person who is not a fan of Hillary, the origins of PUMA throw me off a little. I just hope that down the road this organization will lead to the support of women candidates in general, and not Hillary in particular; but that is just my personal opinion.

    I tend to think that when we vote we need to be more concerned about a person’s character and values then we are about specific issues. The question should be “Will this person do what is right for the country?” as opposed to “Will this person do what is right for me?”. Ultimately, what is right for the country will be right for all of us, not just a specific special interest group. Please don’t misunderstand, I am not belittling the importance of women’s rights at all; I believe that what is best for this country is the elimination of all boundaries, whether they be gender, racial, age or what have you. I am just saying that sometimes a candidate that promises all kinds of things to each and every special interest group, doesn’t necessarily have the country’s best interests at heart. So supporting someone who seems to be the best candidate for women, but who is not the best candidate for America is not someone who should be supported. I would use Obama as an example. A lot people voted for him because he seemed to be the best candidate for African Americans, but he certainly was not the best candidate for America. So supporting a female candidate simply because she is female would be just as wrong as not supporting simply because she is a woman.

    I have a feeling I am about to get piled on, so have at it!

  12. TheRealKim Says:

    Great Post Afro. You really have me thinking.

  13. Great post. I do wonder about this topic. I am thinking conservative, liberal, and libertarian PUMAs cannot live together. The only thing that binds us together is our desire to promote excellent female candidates (which is a great cause, to be sure). What separates the two groups is far greater. On some issue (like a woman’s right to choose or gay marriage) all sides can acquiesce and come to an agreement that is livable, but this is only window dressing. Other issues are non-negotiable. Liberal principles are based on an economic theory that is flawed and lead to big government and all its accoutrements. Some conservative principles are personally restrictive, plus they are not doing too well on that smaller government thing lately.

    Yea, I dunno–very though-provoking post though.

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